BDSM:
BDSM (Bondage, Discipline, Dominance, Submission, Sadism, Masochism)
It is a broad term that covers various sexual practices and role-playing games, where power exchanges and fetishes can play a central role. BDSM can be safe and enjoyable, but it requires openness, discussion and careful preparation. Here's a comprehensive guide on how to get started in BDSM safely and responsibly.
- Introspection and Communication
The first step in BDSM is introspection. Think about what your own fantasies, limitations and preferences are. Think about whether you want to be a dominant party (dom) or a submissive party (sub), and what kind of BDSM activities you are interested in. Communicate openly and honestly with your partner about this if you are part of a couple. All parties are understandably involved only of their own free will .
- Rules and Limits
In BDSM, it is important to set rules and boundaries. Draw up a BDSM contract that defines what is allowed and what is not. This can include physical boundaries such as pain threshold and mental boundaries such as role playing and language use. The rules can also define safe words to be used if the situation becomes too intense and you want to stop the operation.
- Safety first
Safety is the number one priority in BDSM. This means using safe words (such as "stop" or "safeword") that can stop the operation at any time. Always use pre-agreed words as security words. In addition, ensure physical safety, such as using safe equipment and ensuring that you do not cause permanent harm or injury.
- Education and Learning Skills
If you are interested in using BDSM activities, educate yourself and learn the necessary skills. For example, if you are interested in bondage, learn knots and techniques so you can tie safely. Many cities have BDSM communities that offer education and information. We also recommend reading more extensive literature on the topics.
- Secure Contracts
When starting BDSM activities with a new partner, always make a pre-agreed contract that defines what you will do and how you will ensure each other's safety. This agreement may also cover health-related matters such as sexually transmitted diseases and vaccinations.
- With Time and Practice
BDSM takes time and practice. Don't expect to become a BDSM expert right from the start. Start simple and increase the intensity when you're ready. Communicate constantly with your partner and be ready to learn new things along the way. As with everything, you won't become a pro in a week or even a month.
- Communities and Support
Join BDSM communities and get information and support. Many places have local BDSM groups that organize events and offer support for beginners.
Remember that BDSM should always be safe, consensual and fun for all involved. Discuss, set boundaries and enjoy BDSM safely and responsibly.
- BDSM History
The history related to BDSM is diverse and interesting, and its history goes back centuries.
Classical period: Elements related to BDSM can be traced back to ancient Greece and Rome. Roman emperors and Empress Messalina, among others, are known for sadomasochistic practices.
Middle Ages: In the Middle Ages, a wide variety of sadomasochistic themes appeared in art and literature. These themes often reflected the dynamics of power and submission.
19th century: The treatment of hysteria was mentioned earlier. In the 19th century, the belief became widespread that women could suffer from hysteria and that a "healing orgasm" could cure it. This led to a form of manual clitoral massage therapy, which was one of the earliest forms of BDSM.
Early 20th century: Electric vibrators were invented. Initially marketed as medical devices, they quickly gained popularity as erotic aids.
1950s: Erotica and fetish magazines hit the market, and BDSM-related fantasies came out more openly.
1960s and 1970s: The sexual revolution and feminist movements of the 1970s influenced BDSM communities. BDSM-related communities and clubs were formed, and the discussion of sexual rights and pleasure took center stage.
1990s: The rise of the Internet allowed BDSM communities to grow and communicate more widely. BDSM also gained more visibility in popular culture.
Today: BDSM has become a widely accepted expression of sexual freedom and is part of many people's sexual identity. BDSM communities, clubs and educational events are common in many countries, and BDSM has been covered in many books, films and television series.
We cannot help emphasizing how important it is to note that in BDSM safety, consent and responsibility are always emphasized. This includes safe words, adherence to pre-agreed rules and boundaries, and careful training in specific activities. BDSM practitioners generally emphasize that all activity is based on free will and mutual respect. In our Hotcat online store, you can find a wide selection of BDSM equipment and accessories for your own adventures.
